Sheryl Ziegler, Doctor of Psychology, shares what mothers need in their lives in order to experience happiness and help prevent …
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You can’t have kids fulfill your soul
Jesus does
This explains so much about why families feel disconnected even when they love each other deeply. Emotional safety really is the foundation.
I'm sorry but I switched off 3 minutes into this video. I was looking for a psychology deep dive on why mothers invalidate their daughters. I am sick to death of women playing the woe is me card.
Raising children is hard work, so if you're not up to it, don't bring children into this world. They don't ask to be born! The trouble with modern day women is they're too ambitious, want it all, then get depressed when they've put too much pressure on themselves. Grow up FGS!! I am 46 and childless and proud of it.
I was not going to have children only to resent them for needing me. Women like the one here really irritate me!
I hoped this would help. The Books and Music.
LMAOOOO that hospital fantasy is so real.. I was bleeding out in the hospital one night and I was just like… Dam, this is actually so nice.. quitting work to take care of everyone full time doesn't even feel equal. Sped kid and husband. I still get burnt out I just yell a lot less.
I respectfully don’t agree with this video. For me, motherhood has been the most healing and rewarding experience of my entire life. Before becoming a mom, I was surrounded by people—what looked like a vibrant social circle—but I was deeply lonely. I struggled with depression, anxiety, and panic attacks, even while living a life many would dream of. I had financial freedom, luxury, and what most would call success, but I felt empty inside.
Becoming a mother rebirthed my soul. My son, now four years old, gave my life a depth of meaning and purpose I never knew I needed. Through parenting him, I’ve been able to heal layers of mother hunger and emotional pain I carried since childhood. I’m a mindful, present mom, and this journey has been the most profound decision I’ve ever made.
Without my son, I genuinely believe I would have continued down a path of silent suffering—lonely, unfulfilled, and disconnected from self-love. He saved my life in ways I can’t fully describe. And yes, I only have one child—but it only took one to transform everything.
Women detest stability and responsibility, that's why they're not happy when there are people who love them, care for them and depend on them.
What would the best advice be to meet new people if you moved to a new area? I am thinking of joining the local YMCA. My husband and I WFH while our girls are in daycare.
My heart goes out to you guys … I can relate because I try to do everything I can around the house so my wife does nothing but that too can cause a problem because now she finds new intermacy so idk but I try to be the best dad i can but mother hood is on a another different level of difficulty
It was when i joined the local church that I was able to feel like I wasn't lonely any longer. I'm creating a family outside of our little family. We count on one another, all in the spirit of God.
Because they have lost their oxytocin and their shame.
Motherhood is hard.
Still accurate in 2025
The thing is that I do believe that this problem and “problems with no name” applies for both parents…. Not just one gender
🌸 Such a powerful and validating talk — thank you Dr. Ziegler for bringing so much honesty to the struggles mothers face. The reminder about connection and self-care is so important 💜 For moms who find it hard to unwind at night, I share peaceful sleep stories and calming meditations on my channel that may offer a quiet space to rest and recharge 🌙✨
We have zero family members here in NJ. It's ALWAYS just us three. I never have a place to go when I need time away. I hate the weekends and Summers.
This applies the same to men. We're all lonely. Technology is killing us. It's nature's way.
Another reason to not have kids…
I wish that I had someone to call on and talk to, but everybody is just so busy and nobody ever has time to talk so it’s literally just me and my husband and our two kids and he’s at work 12 hours out of the day and I’m at home with kids all day
Women are lazy.
It's very serious how a lot of women are so miserable! Women don't put a little of support financially and they do they have any excuse to not split chores ! You have to go outside the real world before getting married! Thats why you can't balance chores plus you have to teach your kids to help with chores even if is just their toys ! Talk to husband if you are not capable to the handle chores and take over car repairs home repairs accounts planning for the whole year , planning for the investment accounts etc ! But talk and don't play blind when man tells you his s3$√| needs as well plan to go on a date hire a maid pay baby sitter , but open mind and mouse to work as a team !
Men and women r different
Waiting for the day women can take some accountability. The main issue with struggling mothers are their choices and expectations!
Sorry but she was researching motherhood and only discovered The Feminine Mystique? 😂 she lost all credibility with that for me. Come on lady this the first book you read on feminism!
Listening to these women on here complaining What do you think your husbands are doing at work living it up????? You ladies do understand why it's called work and not fun or relaxation right???????? Men don't complain about it They just do what they have to do. The modern stay-at-home wife has never had it easier and has never complained more
Everyone takes you for granted. I feel like I could just leave. I have teen girls and a nine-year-old that I taught to do everything from an early age, and they all sit around and will step over a piece of paper instead of picking them up. I work and homeschool. Dad sits around and leaves all discipline to me. I am just so sick and tired. I have been diagnosed with lone atrial fibrillation–go figure!
7:45: Don't bank on that, sometimes "friends" ain't s#!t either!
Most of the women in my life are miserable in some way, even the ones without children. I think women are just never satisfied. Even the Buddha said it himself 😂 Women never say "enough, life is good."
Because they're weak, lazy and entitled.
I think if this became about including men instead of blaming them, the issue would on the course of being resolved. Instead it's often becomes an issue of not voicing these concerns until your about to break.
Your husband will help if you ask him because whether you want to admit it he has his own stuff to deal that is taking his focus because you told him you were fine. He can't offer to help because if he doesn't offer it the right way he's patronizing you.
Communication goes both ways and only expecting it from him isn't healthy and will make you miserable.
I know the name! It’s called “the industrial revolution.” Before this, men didn’t leave the home to go and work. Families were together all day working as a unit usually on the family farm, or bakery, or anything else that the town needed. After this revolution, the men began leaving the home to work in factories. We aren’t meant to be apart from one another.
Everything she says is fine and dandy. In my experience, friends and real friends are hard to find. I just talk with my therapist to unload my issues. That way, I know my business won't be resold, and no one can use that information against me when they get mad at me.
The only reason for this – patriarchy which puts the burden of child care and upbringing entirely on the shoulders of women 😊
I don’t know where to find support 😢
Well this helps
I can’t make anyone be a friend
N it’s draining
Literally
Motherhood is highly overrated in india. Fathers are not given the responsibility of raising children and taking care of them. Even there's a word called working mother but not working father
I love my life and my babies I want to know what to do to be better for them
We live in a neighborhood with a lot of young families. I meet the other moms every afternoon for a chat on the street. There’s no ,,isolation” in that sense. I still feel extremely overwhelmed and depressed. It’s just too much. The mental load of motherhood. I just want out of it.
I wouldn’t be so stressed out if I wasn’t expected to do everything and start the day for everybody and make the meals before the people leave and have the things ready before the people came home the people that hold their hand out day after day but never do anything in return Sometimes I feel like my children are selfish but then I remember that their children and I hate that about myself. I hate that I’m burnt out. I hate them. I’m drained. I hate that I’m unfulfilled and I feel like I like any personal identity but mom and woman to other peopleI feel like a fabrication of the things that people need me to be and sometimes I don’t even know who the fudge I am. I’m something for everyone else but me.
This is a very serious issue that alot of moms should be fully aware
Society shouldn't shame stay at home moms. If they shame you, we should shame them for playing their part in devouring civilization, because its only moms who continue the society. People who work are technically being more selfish.
Women always want more 😢
Don't want a breadwinner husband? Do it ALL yourself. Raise the kids and make $5-15k/month…good luck.